Saturday, January 15, 2011

Dear Luke,

Luke Arthur Friedman  Born January 14, 2011.
A good day.

Dear Luke,

First of all, I have to say that in this picture you look exactly like my dad, your namesake, Grandpa Treats.  I am sure that your mom, dad, sisters, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins will tell you about him as you grow up.  I am sorry that I was not there the moment you were born, but like Grandpa Treats, you were taking your sweet time and I figured there was no way you would be coming any time soon, so I went home.  But then, again like my dad, you suddenly sauntered into this world, making it look effortless in the process.  I think the other babies were jealous; I know their moms certainly were.

But unfortunately, the rest of your life will not be as easy: you and your dad are completely outnumbered by your mom and three sisters and you are already expected to make awesome picks for your hockey pool (like your mom) and know your way around the kitchen (like your dad).  So I want to let you know that as an impartial aunt (read: I can't punish you and will probably always take your side), I am going to offer a few pieces of advice to help you out along the way:

1.  Learn to cook like your dad (and mom...she makes the best brisket ever, ask her for the recipe before she is too old to remember it).  Not only is it better for the health of our planet and you, the ladies love it. I recommend mastering steak, a signature cocktail, and a rich and gooey dessert.  If you do these three right, I predict you will also learn to master breakfast (wink wink, nudge nudge).

3.  Be active.  Notice I did not say play sports.  Run, play street hockey, ride you bike (with a helmet, of course), or anything else that gets you off of the couch and into the fresh air and sunshine.  The health of kids who live an overall active lifestyle is better than kids who play organized sports but otherwise lead a sedentary lifestyle.  Also, its fun.  And it gets you out of the house and away from your three sisters who, if given the chance, may paint your nails to see which shade of polish they think will go best with the dress they are wearing to the spring dance in hopes of attracting that special someone (sigh)...

4.  Notice things like the nail polish that she wears to match her dress, her new shoes, and the fact that she did her hair differently.  Girls (including your mom) like that kind of thing.

5.  Don't pick your nose in public. Ever.  Even when you are in grade one.  Because one day you won't be in grade one and you won't want to be known as Luke-who-used-to-pick-his nose-in-grade-one.

6.  As soon as possible, learn how to tie your own shoes and skates.  Its not cool to have to take your mom with to a pickup game of hockey at your local rink.  Unless she's playing too.  Wait, that's even more uncool.

7.  Always talk to your mom and dad.  Even when it is something that you don't think you can talk to them about.  Especially when it is something that you don't think you can talk to them about.  They are smart.  Really smart.   They love you and won't judge you and just want you to be happy and safe.

8. Don't lose your pants.  Your cousin, my son Billy, lost his pants once and he has always regretted it for numerous reasons.

9.  Ask questions.  All the time.

10.  Very rarely are moustaches sexy.  Unless you are Tom Selleck (ask your dad about him).  Don't grow one.  Unless it is for a bet or to raise money for charity.  Then I guess it is ok.

Got it?

P.S.  There are a lot of other important things that I could say like stay in school, don't do drugs, and be kind, but those are the kinds of things your mom and dad will teach you.  For everything else, you can always come to me.


  1. Cayla...this is wonderful. How lucky for your new nephew to be able to read this one day and for your sister to know that she has such a kind, loving, creative sister. Much love....Cousin Sharon (From the good old U.S. of A)

  2. This ones my favorite...but maybe I am bias!